Spiritual Maturity Means Loving Each Other

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Spiritual Maturity means loving each other


We can learn about God but still miss who He is—He is love. Spiritual maturity means becoming great lovers of others. True spiritual maturity is allowing the Holy Spirit to make you a relational person. Jesus made the point that all of the law and the prophets are summed up in love for God and love for others. (Matt. 22:40) As believers we know that when we’re born again, the Holy Spirit moves inside of us and begins to do His work. The fruit he produces in us is relational– love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control (Gal. 5:22-23).

[tweetthis]True spiritual maturity is allowing the Holy Spirit to make you a relational person. #RelationalDiscipleship[/tweetthis]


So what do we need?


  • God’s Spirit:

We need the Holy Spirit in us to ensure God’s love through us in relationship. Otherwise it’s just a nice idea. Love is ruined if the devil, the destroyer of relationship, is allowed to work. Our sinful nature left to itself is selfish, proud, and will kill relationship. The culture of this world is designed to entice our sinful nature to act out, and this hurts any chance to be what we were designed to be.


  • God’s Word:

We must have God’s Word to help us restore the right definition of love. Why? Because the devil has no problem with allowing people to think they need love, but he changes the definition of the word slightly so that the word loses its power. God’s word gives us the true definition of love in 1 Corinthians 13.


  • God’s People:

    God also gave us mature believers who are called on to make disciples. God’s Spirit, + Gods Word, + God’s people, = God’s way of helping us move   from death to maturity. It’s not enough that we now have the right definition of the word “love”. We need more mature people to show infants what it actually looks like, through modeling what love looks like in action.

[tweetthis]To love God and love others in relationship is spiritual maturity. #relationaldiscipleship[/tweetthis]

Relationship is not a means to an end alone, but it is the end also. To love God and love others in relationship is maturity. You don’t give up relationship once you have transferred right information and behavior. All right information and behavior leads to relationship. Jesus said it this way—“People will know that you are my disciples because you love one another.” John 13:35

As believers, we must understand that maturity in Christ is to understand who our God is in Christ Jesus. Jesus is the perfect picture of love for God and others. It’s my hope that the church focuses on maturity as God defines it –if we do, the world will notice a difference in us and will be drawn to the One who gives us real life.


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Jim Putman is the Senior Pastor of Real Life Ministries in Post Falls, Idaho. Jim served as a youth minister in two small churches prior to planting Real Life Ministries in 1998. He is the author of three books; Church is a Team Sport (2008), Real-Life Discipleship (2010), The Power of Together (2016) and co-authored; DiscipleShift (2013). Jim’s passion is discipleship centered on following the teachings of Jesus and the methodologies of Jesus.